Cheltenham City defender Ben Tozer put on a man-of-the-match performance against Premier League giants Manchester City within the Fourth Round of the Emirates FA Cup back in January.
Nevertheless, there wasn’t to be a fairytale ending for the Robins, because the Pep Guardiola powerhouse scored three goals within the closing 10 minutes of the sport to progress, coming back from a goal down after Alfie Could discovered the net just earlier than the hour mark.
Tozer’s show in that sport was extensively recognised by the three former professionals offering evaluation that night, however issues haven’t all the time been about Premier League teams and good performances for the defender.
Talking to Mark Clemmit on the Official EFL Podcast, Tozer revealed that he had suffered with nervousness and melancholy earlier in his career, and says though you won’t see it at instances, there’s a gentle on the end of the darkish tunnel.
“It’s solely after I suppose back and discuss it that I realise how a lot of a bad place I used to be in. It wasn’t fairly, I used to be fairly low,” he said.
“I’m truly very grateful and glad I’ve been by that scenario, as unusual as that sounds. I believe it’s not solely made me a greater particular person, however I additionally admire every part in life far more.
“There’s all the time a light-weight on the end of the tunnel. Anxiousness had by no means played a component in my life earlier than, however I’m glad I’ve been by it and perceive it. To have come by every part to be the place I’m now, I’m in an unbelievable place and lengthy could it continue.”
New analysis into males’s psychological well being means that, whereas some progress has been made, males really feel fearful or low extra regularly than 10 years in the past and are consequently twice as prone to really feel suicidal.
Tozer has bolstered that message, that it’s okay to speak, and says with out talking to somebody about his private difficulties, his life may have turned out fully otherwise.
“As blokes, we shrug issues off. If somebody’s coming off a bit unfavourable, individuals are inclined to stroll away from it and say ‘I don’t want that negativity’, and that’s the moment when that you must ask if every part is okay.
“Having been to a counsellor, somebody who didn’t know a lot about football however knew what made me really feel how I felt, was unbelievable really.
“I didn’t like the primary couple of classes nevertheless it then turned regular and I informed them issues I’d by no means informed anybody, it makes you perceive why you’re pondering the best way that you’re.”